I hope our unexplained infertility story can be encouragement for any infertility struggles you may be experiencing. I know how hard it is to go through. Unfortunately, infertility is common, but most people do not want to speak about it. When I was in the thick of the storm, I found hope and encouragement reading other’s stories. Knowing that we were not alone helped so much. I pray that sharing our story can do the same for you.
Our Unexplained Infertility Story
When we started trying for a baby, I did not think it would take us over 3 years to get pregnant. As the months went on and people kept asking when we were going to start a family; I became obsessed with figuring out how to get pregnant. I was trying to trust God’s timing but I could not understand why it was taking so long. According to the doctors both my husband and I were healthy. But for some reason we just could not seem to get pregnant, no matter what we tried.
As time went on covid happened, and I knew that was one reason the timing was not right and we had not gotten our little miracle yet. There was a time when work was EXTREMELY stressful for both of us. Once again I knew that was another reason.
My husband and I finally got to the point where we truly accepted whatever God’s plan was. We knew His timing was always perfect and if it was meant to be it would happen. We contemplated building a skoolie, quitting our jobs, and figuring out how to travel full time to explore the world. While that would be an amazing experience, I was hopeful that we would still be able to have kids. I knew that God always fulfills the desires of your heart, but I had accepted that maybe that was not in God’s plans for us.
Finding Out I was Pregnant
My husband ended up being able to get a job in town. Which relieved so much of our stress and gave us the work life balance we really needed. I decided to set up a doctor appointment to figure out why we were experiencing unexplained infertility and struggling to get pregnant. I ended up getting sick and had to move my appointment to the next week. A few days before the appointment I took a pregnancy test. Not thinking much of it, I set it down and walked away, fully expecting it to be negative like all the others I had taken before. When I looked down and saw the two lines, I could not believe it. For a split second felt like I had tested positive for covid. It all just did not feel real.
Our Miracle
I called the doctor’s office to tell them I ended up getting pregnant. They said I could still come in to see how everything was going. At that doctors appointment, I found out I had a cyst filled with all the hormones for the baby and that we needed to take certain precautions to make sure the cyst did not pop. If it did pop I could lose the baby. In that moment, I knew that God was watching out for us. If I had not gotten sick, I would not have postponed my doctor’s appointment, possibly would not have gotten an ultrasound and noticed the cyst, and could have miscarried. Just shows how sometimes even “bad” things happen for a good reason.
The Takeaway
I really believe gratitude and positivity have so much power over our lives. My pregnancy was very textbook and relatively good. I believe a big part of that was because I was just so grateful to be able to be pregnant. Being pregnant is not easy. It is exhausting, uncomfortable, and full of weird symptoms, but it is a miracle. One that I am so grateful to have experienced. Now I get to live my dream of being a mom and in the hard moments I remind myself of how much of a miracle my little girl is.
I hope this article can give you a little glimmer of hope. I know how hard it is to be in the waiting season and I know not everyone is as lucky as we are. But please know that sometimes we have to go through hard things for a reason. God knows best and has a reason for everything, even if we do not always understand.
If you would like to read another encouraging blog on unexplained infertility this article helped me so much when I was going through a tough season. I hope it can help you too!
If you’re looking for a little more encouragement, you might like my post about my favorite Bible and devotionals. Read that HERE!
Tips to Survive the Waiting Period
- Get close to God. I know He is the reason my husband and I didn’t completely lose our minds while we were trying to get pregnant.
- Work on healing & finding yourself. I had a lot of work to do to heal my mind. I knew I needed to so that I could be a good mom for our future kids. I didn’t want them growing up with a mom who couldn’t emotionally be there for them. In order to be there for them, I had to be there for myself. I had to learn how to process my emotions.
- Do the things you love! We got sucked up into work life so much. I wish we would have spent more time traveling, hiking, etc.
- Work on your relationship. Go on lots of dates. Enjoy just being the two of you. It’s a very special time. The first year of having a baby can be really hard on a marriage. You are both sleep , going through a plethora of emotions, and learning all kinds of new things. Cuddling each other can be kind of hard for the first 6 months. The stronger you are as a couple before the baby, the more resilient you’ll be after the baby is here.
- SAVE MONEY, once you get pregnant, you have 9 months to stockpile money. The more you have set aside the better. If you can’t find a sitter or want to be a stay at home mom, at least you have a nest egg so you don’t have to stress out about money. Babies are pretty expensive but SO WORTH IT!
